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The Crucial Skill That Every Christian Needs: My Epiphany Over Coffee and Cookies

Until my epiphany, I was the one who prayed before bedtime, read the Bible, and belted out hymns on Sundays. Yet, I was oblivious of a crucial skill that I needed, apologetics.

Einstein said: “If you can’t explain it simply, you don’t understand it well enough.” 

This all changed when I met Sarah, a Jehovah’s Witness, over a cup of coffee and some particularly delicious almond cookies. 

The Unexpected Friendship

I first met Sarah when we worked side by side at an event. She was cheerful and enthusiastic.

When she mentioned she was a Jehovah’s Witness, I was confident about my faith, and embraced the opportunity to delve deeper into matters.

We embarked on a profound conversation, but work got in the way, and we decided to meet another day for a “to be continued.” 

The Aha Moment

It was summertime, and the next time we met was in her garden over coffee and cookies. We had many more pleasant moments in her garden. And we never came to an agreement—far from it. 

I still don’t agree with everything Sarah believes, and she doesn’t agree with everything I believe. Yet, our friendship, despite our differing beliefs, has not only enriched my spiritual journey but also ignited a personal growth that I never anticipated.

Sarah, in her conversation with me, was stringing words together like a master. And she had Bible verses from memory to sprinkle over everything she said to add flavor and depth. 

As the sun set behind us in her garden, Sarah presented her case, and I became flustered and floundered. I became inspired. I wanted to speak like that.

That night, I went home and took my Bible out with vigor. I started delving into the pages, not just reading them. I sought out commentaries and translations. 

I memorized one, then two verses.

And, then, I found apologetics. The discipline that aims to provide rational arguments and evidence to support one’s faith and address objections or criticisms posed by skeptics or those of other beliefs. 

I started by reading books and articles and attending seminars. 

A New Challenge

Honestly, I was totally intimidated by all the academic brains of apologetics. But, I leaned in and learned some basic skills.

Slowly, I engaged in conversations with friends and family, and gradually gained confidence, reminding myself that Jesus called fisherman to be witnesses for the Gospel. And Paul’s words were ringing bells in my mind:

1 Corinthians 1:27: “God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise; God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong.”

My journey is far from over. I’ve come a long way, but there’s still much to learn. I’ve discovered that faith is not a destination but a continuous walk with God. The journey itself is the destination.

Writing and posting online is walking in faith on a new level for me. My go-to method is to overthink and end up doing nothing, but I’ve learned that learning comes by doing. 

Vulnerability, the courage to admit that I don’t have all the answers, has been not just crucial but transformative to my spiritual growth and my ability to communicate effectively. 

Not even the masters of apologetics can always convince, but they get to be a witness for God. The opportunity to share the Gospel.

Do Unto Others

Many years later, I had a quirky personal assistant in Hong Kong. A lovely girl who often said, ‘I love Jesus.’ So, one day I asked her, ‘What do you mean, Cora, when you say that?’ She was stumped. 

This prompt sparked a journey for her, just as it did for me with Sarah. She, too, learned the skill to articulate her thoughts to be a witness for our Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ.

Take A Page Out Of My Book

I went from trodding around, meeting Sarah over coffee and cookies, learning a new skill, and growing with leaps and bounds in my faith.

When winter comes, the one who sails through has put in the effort to learn how to ski. Faith requires study and reflection for it to become delightful. 

The process of learning to articulate my faith has been challenging, but it has also been incredibly rewarding. It has deepened my understanding of my beliefs and brought me closer to God. 


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